Gay men in particular struggle with issues of masculinity, minority stress, self-judgment, isolation, hiding and protecting others rather than taking care of themselves. Often, there is shame of being gay and the fear of judgment when in the company of (straight) others. We are not compassionate with ourselves as we fear this will make us weak and expose us as flawed and inadequate. We fear we lose control and the mask that we have put on.

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What if you felt that being gay was a gift? It makes you you. It makes you unique.

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What if there was a way to hold feelings of shame and inadequacies with kindness and love, even in community with other gay men where we discover that being self-compassionate does not make us weak. It makes us strong (here is an article about the myth of self-compassion).

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You must change yourself so that things can change on the outside. As Gandhi said, "be the change that you wish to see in the world." So we must turn towards the self-judgment that we have against ourselves, our own rejection and abandonment, in order find peace and transformation. And none of this says, "I comply!" On the contrary, it is a call to wise action, to being fierce.

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Join me for individual guidance with a design that works for you and that helps you help yourself.

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Does any of the below sound familiar?

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• Do you wish to let go of judgment?

• Do you long to accept yourself just as you are?

• Do you wish to love yourself more?

• Do you wish to let go of victim mentality?

• Do you wish to master your world?

• Do you wish to embrace and live your sexuality? 

• Do you wish to live with an open heart and mind? 

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If any of this resonates with you, feel free to get in touch. Let's take the first steps together...

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